We silently adore and idealise a friend who is chatty, funny, and entertains all those around them with their charm and wit. We try to imitate that relative, who is outspoken such that when they speak, they outclass others’ opinions. He or she may sound harsh but their point is clear. The biggest trolls on social media amuse us the most.
The question arises, in the name of entertainment and argument, have we lowered the standards of speech, humor, criticism and conversation.
Our style of speaking and choice of words definitely have a significant effect upon others that in return affect our akhirah.
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:
“A slave (of Allah) may utter a word which pleases Allah without giving it much importance, and because of that Allah will raise him to degrees (of reward). A slave (of Allah) may utter a word (carelessly) which displeases Allah without thinking of its gravity and because of that he will be thrown into the Hell-Fire.” [Bukhari – 6478]
It is our speech that may take us to Jannah or throw us into Hellfire. Therefore, we must not be heedless in our speech. So, let us reflect on how we should be using the blessing of speech.
First of all, it is not necessary to talk excessively in order to seek everyone’s attention. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was not an excessive talker nor did he ever speak vainly. And yet, when he spoke, everybody was attentive to his words. He advised us:
” …whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should speak what is good or keep silent.” [Bukhari 6136]
Secondly, one should only speak when he has something good to share otherwise, silence is a better option because no good ever comes out of aimless talking. The more we speak, the more are the chances that we might utter some words which may hurt others, backbite, pass comments, or share something fabricated. Being silent, when our opinion is not necessary, is better because it makes us a good listener, helps us to analyse and understand the situation well and gives us time for self-reflection.
Moreover, driven by emotions, we often rush into arguments, leading to a mess in our relationships or moments of embarrassment. That’s why it’s crucial to think carefully before speaking. It might feel challenging at first, but with practice, it brings immense mental peace.
The most important thing about handling our speech is that it will not only give us worldly benefits, but we also get the guarantee of Jannah.
“Whoever can guarantee (the chastity of) what is between his two jaw-bones and what is between his two legs (i.e. his tongue and his private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him.” [Bukhari 6474]
When we guard our tongues from malicious talk and heartless gossiping, we may lose favour with some people in our circle. But remember, when the trends of society are flaky and obeying them amounts to nothing. What really matters is when we obey Allah (SWT), even in the face of contrary circumstances.